DIVORCE MEDIATION MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is Mediation?
Mediation is a voluntary process which allows both of you to maintain control over your own destiny and the terms of your divorce settlement. Both parties and attorneys attend either a four-hour or an eight-hour mediation, depending on the complexity of your case. A settlement is not mandatory. If you do not settle, your case will proceed to trial. Most courts require mediation before trial. Sometimes mediation is also required before a Temporary Orders Hearing.
Is the Mediator a Lawyer?
Although some mediators are social workers, most commonly the mediator is a lawyer who acts as a neutral person to help you settle your case. This is preferred because when you reach an agreement, an attorney must draft the final order based on the mediation agreement. A lawyer who is a mediator will not waste your time by providing agreement terms which are unable to be translated into legally enforceable terms in your final order.
How is the Mediator Chosen?
The mediator is chosen and agreed upon by the attorneys. Every Family Law attorney has a "short list" of competent mediators who specialize in family law with whom we are familiar, whose style we are comfortable with, and who we have found to be effective. We will propose that we use a specific mediator who has experience and success with the particular kinds of issues included in your specific case.
What is the Role of the Mediator?
The role of the mediator is to facilitate an agreement between the parties to prevent the necessity for a trial.
Can What I Say Be Used Against Me Later?
Everything said during mediation is confidential. The mediator cannot be made to testify in court if a settlement is not reached. The mediator will only report one of two things: "settlement": or "no settlement".
Further, you and I will advise the mediator what we do or do not want shared with your spouse and your spouse’s attorney! At any time during the mediation, you may ask to speak to your attorney privately!
How Does This Work Exactly?
Procedurally, you and I will remain in one room, while your spouse and his or her attorney stays in a separate room. The mediator travels from room to room conveying each side’s offer and/or counteroffer.
Sometimes, the parties mediate by all being in the same room together. This is common if your mediation is taking place at a county dispute resolution center. However, more frequently, the parties remain separated. Occasionally, a particular mediator may like to start the process off by introducing themselves and explaining how they work to all parties and attorneys at the same time. If so, this is just a brief meeting, after which the parties and attorneys go to their separate mediation rooms.
How to Schedule a Mediation with Marilyn Gale Vilyus:
Ms. Vilyus is available for both half day (4 hours) or full day (8 hours) mediations.
Ms. Vilyus is dedicated to maximizing the quality of time spent in the mediation process. Providing her with the information requested above, allows Ms. Vilyus to come to every mediation already educated and informed about the concerns of the parties.